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Not every patch is a symbol of trust.
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Over the years, I’ve seen many martial arts groups rise and fall. Names change, alliances shift, and new banners are flown – but the questions stay the same.
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What does it mean to be loyal? What should an association stand for? And when that loyalty isn’t returned, what then?
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In the martial arts, we’re often told to value loyalty – to the dojo, to the style, to the association. And for many of us, that’s not difficult. We give our time freely. We help run events. We build websites, design patches, write certificates. We promote the name with pride and stand behind it for years. We do it because we care. Because we believe in something larger than ourselves.
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But sometimes that loyalty isn’t mutual.
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Sometimes, when we need support, it’s not there. Sometimes, the people we’ve stood beside are silent when it counts. And sometimes, those who preach loyalty are quick to cast judgement without conversation.
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It makes you stop and ask: is loyalty a one-way street?
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Associations can do great things. They can bring people together. They can preserve knowledge, offer structure, and provide community. But only if they remember their purpose. An association, at its best, should exist to serve the art and the people who practice it – not the egos of a few at the top.
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When rank becomes more important than integrity.
When silence is chosen over fairness.
When status matters more than service.
Then what are we really loyal to?
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True loyalty isn’t about obedience. It’s about shared values. It’s about trust earned and maintained on both sides. When that breaks, we shouldn’t feel guilty for questioning our place. Staying silent, staying in line – those aren’t virtues if what you’re standing behind no longer reflects what you believe in.
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Leaving isn’t betrayal – sometimes, it’s the first step toward integrity.
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This isn’t about bitterness. It’s about honesty. Associations, like individuals, need to reflect. They need to ask themselves: what do we owe the people who keep us alive? And are we living up to the values we claim to represent?
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In the end, the uniform may carry a patch, but it’s the person wearing it who gives it meaning.
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Funny how the loudest voices on loyalty are often the quickest to betray it behind closed doors.
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Written by Adam Carter