(Approx 2 minute 10 second read) It seems that self-defense is a topic people just can’t get their heads around, if my recent articles are anything to go by. . Instructors in particular often seem convinced that you have to fight first. Yet, many tell me they understand the importance of avoiding the fight, but…
Tag: Humility
Self-Defense Isn’t a Game: Time to Get Real.
(2 minute 5 second read) Self-defense isn’t just about you – it could be about protecting those who rely on you. . My last article sparked another round of debate – no surprise there. It was apparently shared to another page without my knowing and the comments went wild there too. That happens. What doesn’t…
If You Think Fighting Is Self-Defense, Think Again: Can You Protect Someone Without Fighting?
(Approx 2 minute 45 second read) This is a follow-up to my recent article about fighting and self-defense – mainly because, based on the comments, it’s clear many people misunderstood the point. So let’s clear a few things up. . The fear of an attack can make many people want to fight back immediately. But…
Calling It Self-Defense Doesn’t Make It True: Most Dojos Teach Fighting.
(Approx 2 minute 5 second read) I once taught at a dojo where, for the most part, they were good people, strong spirit – but their idea of self-defense was almost entirely built around fighting and fitness. . That mindset wasn’t unique to them either. I’ve seen it many times. . In the same dojo,…
Building Lasting Skill: The Uncomfortable Truth – Effort Pays Off.
(Approx 1 minute 55 second read) I’ve been writing articles for a few years now. And it never fails to amaze me when someone comments: “So many words.” . Reading – it’s one of the first things we’re taught. Yet these days, spending even two minutes reading something that might teach you something is too…
Show Up: The Mat’s Here for You, But You Walk Your Own Path.
(Approx 2 minute 5 second read) There comes a point in teaching where you stop chasing people. You realize that the ones who want it will turn up, and the ones who don’t – won’t. That’s not harsh. It’s just how it is. . I’ve had students disappear for months, then return expecting to pick…
A Quiet Strength, a Will to Endure: The Strength That Waits Within.
(Approx 2 minute 30 second read) The dojo has a way of revealing what you’re really made of. It strips away excuses, exposes your habits, and tests your resolve. But it also offers something deeper – an opportunity to see what’s inside. . Marcus Aurelius once wrote, “Look well into thyself; there is a source…
Don’t Just Prove It – Disprove It: The Value of Getting It Wrong.
(Approx 1 minute 40 second read) When you are in the dojo watching your instructor demonstrate a technique, is that technique always successful? . It usually is, isn’t it? But why could that be a problem? . Because if you ever have to use those techniques in the real world, they will often fail –…
Practice Makes Permanent: Train It Right from the Start.
(Approx 1 minute 55 second read) “Practice makes perfect.” How many times have you heard that to motivate you? . The problem is, the phrase isn’t quite right. Practice doesn’t make perfect. It makes permanent. . It should really be: Perfect practice makes perfect. . Karate is known for its repetition. How often have you…
The Essence of the Martial Arts Lies Not in Strength or Style, but in What You Find Within Yourself.
(Approx 1 minute 55 second read) When you find what’s truly right for you in your training, you stop needing to explain it to anyone. . Apart from teaching at the dojo, I train every day. Not to fight, not for show, and not to prove anything. I train because it matters to me. It’s…
Self-Defense Starts Long Before Technique: Not Everyone’s Ready to Hit.
(Approx 2 minute 50 second read) After years of writing, I’ve noticed a pattern. I share practical insights from my dojo – like helping a tired, overwhelmed mother feel safer – and inevitably, someone chimes in with, “Well, in my classes, I teach [insert technique here], and it works for me.” . It’s getting predictable…
Thinking Beyond Technique: Self-Defense Isn’t About Techniques (It’s About People).
(Approx 2 minute 50 second read) I recently wrote about helping a new mother with no experience begin learning self-defense. I wrote about mindset, awareness, and small, practical habits that could fit into a very real, very full life. . But as expected, some of the replies were about techniques. What they would teach. Which…