Never wrestle with pigs. You both get dirty, and the pig likes it.

(Approx 2 minute 10 second read) I used to have an abundance of patience. My career demanded it. I would give people the benefit of the doubt, tolerate more than I should, and work hard to maintain peace in challenging situations. . But as I’ve grown older, I’ve noticed a shift. My filters have all…

Letting Go: Breaking Free from the Opinions of Others.

(Approx 2 minute 20 second read) We all want to be liked. Whether it’s for our many talents, sharp intelligence, warm personalities, or – okay, maybe not for our amazing dance moves – it’s natural to seek validation from others. . But when we start depending on what people think of us to feel happy,…

Finding Clarity in the Red Mist: Self-Control. Remaining Calm in the Chaos.

(Approx 2 minute 35 second read) A key element in any self-defense situation is self-control. It’s not just about staying calm – it’s about staying in charge of yourself. . You can’t allow someone else to manipulate you by pushing your emotional buttons. I’ve been in situations where people have tried to provoke me, using…

Standing Apart: Amid the Many, One Stands Firm.

There will always be people who pass unwarranted judgments on others. As we journey through life, we come to realize that not everyone will be on our side. . Some people seem determined to bring others down, often without understanding the damage their words can cause. You can’t hide from negative people, no matter how…

Control the Threat: Recognize It, React to It, and Resolve It.

(Approx 2 minute 10 second read) If you’re like most people, you probably hope you will never find yourself in a self-defense situation. . The very best defense starts with avoidance of the threat altogether. The sooner you sense it coming, the sooner you can step off the tracks and avoid the freight train altogether….

More Than a Sprint: Running Away vs. Escape Skills. They’re Not the Same.

(Approx 2 minute 15 second read) Someone commented on one of my articles: “Forget about learning self-defense techniques, which you are likely to forget anyway. Just run away.” . Terrible advice. . Learning to escape is paramount in self-protection, but reducing it to just “running away” oversimplifies a much more complex and nuanced skillset. ….

Staying the Course: Making Martial Arts a Part of Who You Are.

(Approx 2 minute read) Losing interest in martial arts training happens to everyone at some point. It’s inevitable, and there are countless reasons why. . How often have you heard someone say, “I used to do karate”? The decision to stop often happens in an instant. Sadly, years of hard work can be undone just…

Predicting the Unpredictable: Every Movement in Combat Tells a Story.

(Approx 1 minute 40 second read) Imagine the massive advantage you’d have if you knew what your opponent was going to do before it happened. It would allow you to react instantaneously, adapting to their moves with precision. . A person’s unconscious, instant reaction to a stimulus is known as a reflex. If you touched…